In military culture, resilience is often framed as endurance — pushing through, carrying on, not slowing down. Strength is measured by how much stress an individual can shoulder without falling apart.
Military families are ready. Military children are resilient. These terms - “readiness” and “resilience” - are widely used as compliments, describing the strength, tenacity, and perseverance of military families to adapt and overcome the challenges of military life: family separations, frequent moves, and inherent dangers. And indeed, we celebrate the strength of these families. But how ready do families need to be? How resilient is enough?
Military-connected children often demonstrate remarkable strength and resilience, thriving through many changes and transitions. However, they also belong to a population that experiences unique stressors such as frequent relocations, long separations from extended family, and having to adjust to new schools and environments repeatedly. While this lifestyle brings opportunities, such as exposure to diverse cultures and friendships around the world, it also may pose some challenges like disrupted routines, interrupted education, emotional strain, and family stress.
I’m a military spouse—a dependent, as we are often referred to in the military community. That word frequently comes with a sting, implying passivity, lack of contribution, and sometimes even entitlement. But my story, like many others, is much more complex than being defined by a label.
Practical for Your Practice is entering its sixth season, and this is a great time for us to reflect on who’s got our six. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about who I have relied on in times of difficulty or challenge, or even in those pivotal moments in my career. So many people have helped and supported me both in my personal and professional life. It was difficult to choose just one to share in this episode.